Socialising doesn’t come naturally for everyone, but these helpful tips will teach you how to be more social.

For those that struggle in social situations, it’s easy to settle down to a life confined to your home. However, as humans, we desire to connect. Our minds aren’t prepared for an isolated existence. Social isolation can lead to loneliness, fear or anxiety, low self-esteem and depression.

Thankfully, there are ways for you to overcome your introverted personality, learn how to be more social and get the level of interaction that you need to be happy and healthy.

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How to be more social: 5 tips to help you through your next interaction

Identify the cause

Social anxiety is often part of a bigger issue, such as feelings of inferiority. In order to improve your social skills, you will need to identify the problem and work on fixing that first. For example, if you have an issue with your appearance, change the way you dress, or try a new hair style.

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Pay attention

When socialising doesn’t come naturally to you, it can be difficult to focus on the conversation. You are often so focused on thinking of what you will say next that you forget to listen to what the other person is saying. Instead, listen carefully, take a few seconds to consider your response and then speak. Likewise, don’t use your mobile phone as a way of avoiding the situation altogether.

Seek interaction

Practice makes perfect. The best way to become better at something is to do it over and over again. Socialising is no different. The more time you spend with people and the more time you spend talking, the better at it you will become. Don’t wait for people to come to you – get out and socialise.

Don’t be too hard on yourself

You will make mistakes, but you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. Everybody says something awkward, rambles or runs out of words every now and then. While it may seem like it, you’re not the centre of the universe. The person you’re speaking to will have forgotten about it in five minutes time and so should you.

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Learn the rules

If you worry that you will say the wrong thing, cause offence or ask the wrong questions, spend some time touching up on the rules of social etiquette. Small things, such as knowing when to laugh or smile, can make a huge difference.

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